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Should couples sleep in separate beds?

Most people assume those in long-term relationships sleep in the same bed. There's a certain comfort that comes with going to bed with your partner and waking up next to them. Plus, where would we be without cuddling? But some sleep experts say that sleeping alone—in a separate bed from your partner—can result in better sleep and possibly a stronger relationship. What do you think?

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Conventional thinking would lead one to believe that married couples always sleep in the same bed. After all, going to bed together is one of the perks of being in a long-term relationship. There's just something special about climbing into bed with your person and waking up side by side. 

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But experts say that sleeping apart can improve both your relationship and your sleep pattern. Quartzy's Rosie Spinks argues that couples only remain in the same bed because of social pressures. Couples fear that sleeping in separate beds sends the message that their relationship is on the rocks, or worse, that they're not having sex. Spinks says it's time to put an end to the taboo: 

Somehow, we have internalized the idea that to be in love is to put up with your partner’s snoring, insomnia, or thrashing midnight movements until the day one of you dies—or you break up because you’re so sleep-deprived.

What if, Spinks asks readers, sleeping separately can actually keep passion burning longer in a relationship? According to Spinks, sleeping separately is:

...not just about wanting distance from your partner. It’s about wholeheartedly choosing when to feel close to them (much like you did in those early, heady days of dating) rather than submitting to a full-scale physical and emotional merger as the only way to show your love. 
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The team at Psychology Today also points out that without proper sleep, intimacy suffers. 

...sleep regulates the body’s hormone levels; when you don’t get enough sleep, sex hormones levels drop as stress hormone levels rise, leading to sexual dysfunction for reasons both physical and psychological.

Poor sleep can also lead to short tempers, arguments and more. Couples who sleep in separate beds could have far healthier foundations than those who snuggle up every night. 

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Sure, your sleep might improve with the occasional night apart, but there's a certain intimacy to sleeping in the same bed that cannot be replaced. The Atlantic's Jon Methven, an admitted insomniac, still chooses to sleep with his wife even after discovering more restful sleep was possible on the couch. He writes:

We sleep together...because we are affectionate beings. Our minds need rest, but our minds also need camaraderie and intimacy and whispering. Anxiety and stress seem less intimidating when discussed with a partner while wearing pajamas...We cuddle. We laugh. At the end of each day we remove the onerous cloaks we’ve donned to face the world, and we want to do this lying next to our best friends, to know we’re not in it alone.
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