Would you rather be single or in a relationship? | The Tylt
Would you rather be single or in a relationship?
Being single is wonderful. You make choices only for you. If you want to spend your days in the quietness of your own home, you can. If you'd rather spend all your time with your friends, by all means, do it! The only well-being you have to be concerned with is your own. Elite Daily spoke with a handful of people on the pleasures of being single. According to one interviewee:
When I'm in a relationship, I tend to pour a lot of myself into that other person. I'm always striving to ensure that they're happy, always trying to show an interest in the things they're interested in, bond with their family and friends, etc. But right now, being single, I get to put all of that energy into my own happiness, interests, and family and friends. I get to be selfish, which is really liberating.
Cuffing season is real. Picture this the following scenario as an example: you're wandering about the romantic New York City as a light snow starts to fall. You stumble across a holiday market in the park and decide to peruse the stalls while enjoying the wintry mix. Suddenly, the aroma of cinnamon, sugar, and chocolate hits your nose, and you notice a cart selling hot chocolate and cookies. You pause to purchase a steaming cup of hot chocolate, served to you with a homemade marshmallow. Hot chocolate in hand, you continue to wander about the darkening New York City streets while the snow blankets the ground around you.
In an interview with British Vogue, Emma Watson described being single as being "self-partnered." According to Watson, who turns 30 in April 2020, many view the birthday milestone with certain expectations. She tells Vogue she didn't understand the anxiety surrounding the big 3-0 until she turned 29. Then, the subliminal messaging became clear:
"...And I realise it’s because there is suddenly this bloody influx of subliminal messaging around. If you have not built a home, if you do not have a husband, if you do not have a baby, and you are turning 30, and you’re not in some incredibly secure, stable place in your career, or you’re still figuring things out… There’s just this incredible amount of anxiety.”
With this in mind, Watson comes to a freeing conclusion about what it means to be single in your late 20s:
“I never believed the whole ‘I’m happy single’ spiel,” she continues. “I was like, ‘This is totally spiel.’ It took me a long time, but I’m very happy [being single]. I call it being self-partnered.”
And what a beautiful definition it is. As a single individual, you are your own best friend. You are intimately aware of your own needs, can take care of yourself in whatever way you see fit, and can find peace in love for yourself.
It's important to know your needs in any context—single or in a relationship—but there's no denying a relationship comes with certain benefits. According to Insider, being in love boosts your mood and mentality:
Being in love has a big effect on your oxytocin level, which promotes bonding and comfort. This is why you love being around your partner, and why just being near them can boost your mood.
Further studies suggest healthy relationships can help reduce stress:
A study from the University of Chicago suggested that people who are married or in committed relationship actually have lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol.