Should gay bars ban bachelorette parties? | The Tylt
Should gay bars ban bachelorette parties?
RuPaul argues the treatment of gay bars as “tourist” destinations by straight women speaks to a more macro issue: treating gay people as accessories to straight life. A gay bar doesn't exist to be a straight woman's walk on the wild side.
“You know, this is an important thing: People who live in the mainstream and the status quo think that everyone else is there to serve them.”
But writer Mikey Rox couldn't disagree more. He thinks bachelorette party bans are rooted in misogyny and set a disturbing precedent around what kinds of people should be allowed in certain spaces.
What message is it sending when we’re demanding on Capitol Hill to be treated the same as everyone else then going back home and telling certain types of people they’re not welcome where we are? That mentality was born on the whims of elitist gay men (and that’s who’s propagating this issue today, by the way), and it goes against everything we’ve fought for.
But many queer folks say they have a right to their own gathering places. It's not gay men's fault that heterosexual men make women feel unsafe, but the solution to that problem is not for straight women to invade queer spaces.
Unexamined From Will & Grace to present is why straight women want to bring their bachelorette parties to a gay bar in the first place.