Should gay bars ban bachelorette parties? | The Tylt
Gay bars are frequently a destination for bachelorette parties, but some say these brides-to-be are invading queer spaces and hurting business with their obnoxious behavior. Some bars have actually banned bachelorette parties, which critics say discriminates against women and is unfair to straight allies. Others argue that in a heterocentric world, queer people deserve their own gathering place and bar owners have every right to ban groups that are disruptive. What do you think? 👰 🎉🚫
Should gay bars ban bachelorette parties?
RuPaul argues the treatment of gay bars as “tourist” destinations by straight women speaks to a more macro issue: treating gay people as accessories to straight life. A gay bar doesn't exist to be a straight woman's walk on the wild side.
“You know, this is an important thing: People who live in the mainstream and the status quo think that everyone else is there to serve them.”
But writer Mikey Rox couldn't disagree more. He thinks bachelorette party bans are rooted in misogyny and set a disturbing precedent around what kinds of people should be allowed in certain spaces.
What message is it sending when we’re demanding on Capitol Hill to be treated the same as everyone else then going back home and telling certain types of people they’re not welcome where we are? That mentality was born on the whims of elitist gay men (and that’s who’s propagating this issue today, by the way), and it goes against everything we’ve fought for.
Bachelorettes often say gay bars are much safer and more fun for groups of women.
My cousin literally picked a gay bar to have the bachelorette party at last night so that we could have fun w/out straight men bothering us— A.P. (@_tickledpink) August 27, 2017
Hard to avoid honestly, even just walking down the street so i know a lot of straight women who go to gay bars for safety— KATE #DefendDACA (@OhMyMithrandir) August 26, 2017
And I get the part about treating gay bars as zoos, but frankly that's what straight women are put through at "straight" bars.— Stephen (@stephenjay90) August 25, 2017
But many queer folks say they have a right to their own gathering places. It's not gay men's fault that heterosexual men make women feel unsafe, but the solution to that problem is not for straight women to invade queer spaces.
Unexamined From Will & Grace to present is why straight women want to bring their bachelorette parties to a gay bar in the first place.— colette arrand (@colettearrand) July 30, 2017
And above all understand that the real problem is predatory straight men and a lack of women/femme exclusive safe spaces— Grant 🌹 (@theyseemebrimpn) July 31, 2017
Don't have your het bachelorette party in a gay bar. Don't invade spaces that aren't for you and get upset when ppl get mad about it.— dog with a vlog (@catsmooches) July 31, 2017
honestly if you're straight and you have your bachelorette party at a gay bar i hope your marriage ends in divorce— ⚢ forest goblin ☭ (@gaycommunists) April 23, 2017