Some psychologists affirm the romantic notion, saying it is indeed possible to fall in love instantly. According to Psychology Today's Theresa DiDonato, researchers out of the Netherlands interviewed 400 men and women on potential romantic partners immediately after first encountering them. The study came to three conclusions:
1. Love at first sight isn't just biased memory. 2. You're more likely to feel love at first sight with beautiful people. 3. Men report love at first sight more than women. 4. Love at first sight isn't usually mutual. 5. Love at first sight isn't really 'love.'
Don't worry about that last one. DiDonato continues by saying:
The kind of qualities that are known to reflect love—intimacy, commitment, passion—are not particularly strong in those first moments when people say they've fallen in love at first sight...Yet the love-at-first-sight experience appears open to these emotions to a greater extent than first meetings where love at first sight is not reported.
In sum, the science favors the romantics. Love at first sight actually is experienced by people....
But for some, love at first sight is a fantasy that belongs in the movies. It's not possible in real life, and holding onto the notion of immediate love can have a negative impact on your potential relationships.
HuffPost looked to a dating coach, Neely Steinberg, for insight:
We can’t know if we love someone just by seeing them from across a crowded room; we can’t know we are meant to be with someone after ten minutes of meeting them. So when you hear people talk like this, do not feel pressure to measure up to their notions of the perfect love tale. Understand that, often times, these are the fantasies people want to believe in, these are the romantic stories people choose to tell themselves and the world only after their love has had time to grow, after they’ve had time for a bit of a rewrite.
Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan also reportedly fell in love at first sight, and everyone is still recovering from their divorce. You might be attracted to someone right off the bat, but that doesn't mean your so-called "love" will last.