Do single people get the shaft in society? | The Tylt
Do single people get the shaft in society?
Bella DePaulo is a Harvard Ph.D, social psychologist and the author of Singled Out: How Singles are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After. She argues forcefully for the idea that couples are deified and singles are treated like second-class citizens in America.
Singlism (the stereotyping and stigmatizing of people who are single) and matrimania (the over-the-top hyping of marriage and coupling) are the wallpaper of contemporary American life.
But for the first time in U.S. history, single people now outnumber married folks at any age. In his book "Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone," New York University sociologist Eric Klinenberg argues we’re poised to become a nation dominated by single people, and offers research to show why that is a good thing.
"Though conventional wisdom tells us that living by oneself leads to loneliness and isolation, Klinenberg shows that most solo dwellers are deeply engaged in social and civic life. In fact, compared with their married counterparts, they are more likely to eat out and exercise, go to art and music classes, attend public events and lectures, and volunteer. There’s even evidence that people who live alone enjoy better mental health."
But the single life isn't all cosmos and Tinder dates. Ask anyone who's been single for any length of time and they will tell you they've experienced stigma and judgment over their unmarried status.
The stigma against unmarried people swirls around in U.S. culture at large, with an overwhelming array of messages in the media about single
We don't have lavish celebrations for single people—you only get those when you're partnered. Couples even have their own holiday. Being partnered is assumed to be the goal in mainstream society, and people who don't partner are often judged.
Our tax code is set up to benefit marriage, as are many forms of insurance (particularly health insurance) and Social Security.